What if you were kinder to yourself?


I am behind on project reporting at work. And I know this doesn’t sound like a big deal but I’ve been behind for awhile and I keep getting more and more behind.

I keep thinking that things will slow down and I’ll have time to catch up, but it hasn’t happened. And it has really started to weigh me down. I feel like I’m not getting the work I need to get down. I don’t feel productive. I feel like I’m failing at my job. Something needs to change.

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What I learned from Gwyneth Paltrow, Stephen Colbert and Amy Schumer

When I was in my early twenties I despised celebrities. I couldn’t understand other people’s obsessions. Shallow people with no lives of their own are the ones who get obsessed with famous people, I thought. I was bigger, better and more intellectual than that. Other than Julia Roberts – I barely knew any celebrities names and I wore that as a badge of honour.

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Speak Up.

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A friend is 40 minutes late for our coffee date but I give him a hug and act as if he is on time. A colleague doesn’t show up for a meeting we’ve had planned for a long time, but I shrug it off and reschedule. The internet install guy drags out a simple procedure that should take 20 minutes so that it takes over 3 hours, but I smile, make polite conversation and laugh at his jokes.

I have gotten good at acting as if everything is fine. I have gotten good at hiding my anger. I have gotten good at avoiding conflict at all costs.

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The Memories that hold us back


Last fall, in the middle of the night, I woke up to my neighbours. A female voice said, “Stop attacking me.” Then a male voice said, “I’m not attacking you, just walk with me.” I sat up suddenly in bed and started to think, What do I do? What do I do? What do I do?

Do I call the police? Will calling the police lead to more harm than good? At my job where I run workshops for youth about the justice system, I hear a lot of stories of police brutality. I was hesitant to call.

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