I want to learn and grow and be bold and make mistakes which means I’m going to hurt people sometimes.
If I’m loud and opinionated and brash, I’m going to hurt people.
And if I’m quiet and soft and never leave the house, other people will feel hurt.
Mostly it’ll be unintentional but occasionally I’ll lose my temper and say something mean to my partner or a close friend.
I want to show up. I want to take up space. I want to take a stand for what I believe in. And I won’t always do it perfectly.
So I’m going to hurt people for the rest of my life.
There’s a voice in my head that says it’s because I’m bad and evil and fucked up in some unique kind of way. But really it’s because I’m human.
And I have news for you. Sometimes you’re going to hurt people because you’re human too.
I want to learn from my mistakes but not beat the crap out of myself because of them.
And so the next time the voice in your head is beating the crap out of you, see if you can be a tiny bit gentler, a tiny bit more compassionate, and a tiny bit more understanding.
It’s safe for you to make mistakes. Sometimes this is the best way to learn.
And ALL human beings, even Oprah and Beyonce and Kamala Harris, make mistakes.
So be gentle with yourself.
Take the best possible care,
Bryn
PS One of the missions in life is to help as many people as possible overcome shame. I’ve struggled with it myself so I know the pain it can create. I’ve also found ways to move through the shame cycle faster.
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