Today I have over 20 of my ideal clients and a partner I care deeply about. Three years ago this would’ve COMPLETELY blown my mind.
I’d quit my job, was in a shitty relationship, and was plummeting into debt – losing over $1000 per month.
So how did I turn it around?
Here are the steps:
- Create Stability
By cutting down my expenses and getting a day job, I created enough financial stability that I wasn’t panicking all the time.
And I spent time creating deep and caring friendships so that I felt more and more fulfilled and loved regardless of whether I was single or dating.
- Keep Learning
I watched Ted Talks on how to master online dating. And I watched FB Lives on how to market and grow my business.
I took marketing and sales courses that felt scary to invest in and promised myself to show up as the best student.
You can learn SO MUCH AMAZING stuff on the internet for free, so research how to achieve your goal. And also INVEST in a course or a coach that you resonate with to help you. You’ll achieve your goal so much faster that way.
- Fail A Lot
I don’t even know how many first dates I’ve been on in the last few years and how many different apps I tried. I kept failing and failing and sometimes I’d quit for a few months but I didn’t give up.
In marketing and sales – I did every single thing wrong. Sometimes I was desperate. Sometimes I was too pushy. Sometimes I wasn’t assertive enough. In the past year alone I’ve done over 60 consultation calls and gotten a whole lot of nos.
But I didn’t give up. I kept learning and growing from the failures.
Sometimes things come easily but most of the time you have to be willing to fail a lot to achieve your dream.
- Refined Your Systems
I was going on all these first dates and within 30 seconds realizing I wasn’t attracted to the person. But I’d already showered, picked out a cute outfit, and taken the subway to meet them. So I started doing a phone call first, so I could see what the energy was like, and then if we had phone chemistry, I’d go on a date.
This saved me a TON of time and energy!!
In the Joyful Marketing course that I invested in, I learned each post needed to make 1 person’s day 1% better. That took away my posting perfectionism and so I posted on social media MORE. And this led to way more people being interested in working with me.
- Come From Love and Fun
When I went on a first date or a call with a prospective client, if I was in DESPERATE ENERGY, the other person could feel it and it NEVER worked out.
So instead I learned to have more fun by making sure I was doing other things that filled me up. For me that’s reading spiritual books, watching comedies, phone calls, or coffee dates with friends, and getting into nature.
If I did those things the week of a first date or a call with a new client, I’d come from such a different energy and it was more likely to work out.
With whatever your dream is, this is true too. If you’re coming from a desperate place, it’ll be hard to even motivate yourself to keep going. So by filling yourself up, you’ll make achieving your goal inevitable.
- Create Stability
And if you follow these steps, you can make your fantasy a reality too.
You got this,
P.S. If this post resonates with you and you want more support to make your fantasy a reality, I’ve partnered with my amazing colleague Boris Yurganov(@1who_is_free) to create an amazing workshop EXACTLY FOR YOU.
In this workshop we’ll explore:
- What’s keeping you stuck in fantasy
- What can help you break free
- And what are your next steps to making it a reality
If you want to:
- Make more money in your creative and spiritual business
- Book more acting roles
- Sell more paintings
- Fall in love with the RIGHT person
This workshop is FOR YOU. You’ll walk away with everything you need to take the next step towards your dream.