I love playfully confronting clients.
I tell them they’re not allowed to work on their goals for 3 years!! “No! Don’t do it! You’re not allowed!!”
This, usually, connects them with the DESIRE for the goal.
Instead of feeling like “I should work on this goal,” they come in contact with the part of them that set the goal in the first place.
And then I switch my energy and help them deeply reconnect with this desire and what their desire wants them to know.
Confronting clients can be deeply healing work.
And there’s an art to knowing when you have a relationship that can handle confrontation.
Sometimes gentleness is what’s needed.
Sometimes respecting a client’s boundary is the most powerful thing you can do.
And other times confronting them is what’s called for…
I don’t always get it right. Sometimes I’m too soft with clients and other times I’m too confrontational.
Talking with a colleague or supervisor afterwards helps me to hone the skill of when to soften and when to push. And sometimes I apologize after the fact.
Being trauma informed is both an art and a science. It’s nuanced and depends on a number of factors.
If you want to explore this juicy topic in a deep and nuanced way with other brilliant therapists, coaches and healers come to the How to Be Trauma Informed Workshop !!
(We had our first workshop of the somatic series yesterday and I loved being with so many brilliant practitioners!!)
Facilitated by me and the somatic genius Pablo Cortes who has over 25 years somatics experience and the biggest heart ever. YOU HAVE TO COMMEEEEE :)!!
Saturday March 4th, 10 am – 2 pm EST
151 Sterling Rd Toronto, ON
PS I also have a FREE WEBINAR on Somatics to Heal the Patriarchy coming up March 13th, 8 – 9 pm EST and the recording will be available for a limited time after that.
You’ll learn trauma informed somatic techniques:
- to get the patriarchy out of your body
- to support your clients to remove patriarchal programming from their bodies and brains
I’d love to have you. Join here.