You risk first, so the client feels safe to risk

I was at the Montreal Institute of Core Energetics a few weeks ago for the final in person intensive. And my colleague Jana Sinyor said, “The therapist must risk, so the client feels safe to risk.”

And a lightbulb went off.

I can’t sit in a session with my fucking clipboard taking notes and expect the client to be super vulnerable.

I have to risk first.

I risk first by writing vulnerably and sometimes embarrassingly about my own struggles.

Or I offer a weird idea that comes to me: that we scream together as loud as we can.

And I’m willing for the client to say hell no, I’m never doing that. Or if the client says she’s open to exploring, I’m willing to scream first and have the client decide not to.

I’m definitely not perfect at this but it’s something I’m working towards.

So how can you risk in your work with clients?

Have you ever had a question bubble up inside you that you want to ask but then you push it down because it’s too weird or too much? 

Or an idea for an exercise but you second guess it because it wasn’t taught specifically in your training?

Take baby steps towards risk.

Sometimes I mess it up. It’s the wrong question to ask or my sense about what they’re experiencing is a bit off.

But usually we end up somewhere interesting because the client says “It’s not quite that, but more like this.”

And mistakes are not the end of the world. You can actually build trust with a client if you handle them well by admitting it didn’t work out or apologizing when required.

So I wanna invite you on a coffee date next week to talk more about this!

If you wanna learn fun somatic risk-taking shit, you gotta come to the free morning workshop: SUPERCHARGED SOMATICS!!

Coffee + Somatics + Chatting is my fav combo!!!

Come to this witchy coffee date here!




PSSSSS If you want a completely unhinged in-person somatics party, check out the Saturday Somatics Series!!

Pablo and I got to work together more in Montreal (and had a road trip party on the way back) and we’ve committed to increasing the risk we’re going to take in the upcoming workshops since we were able to go so deep taking some risks with the students in Montreal.

If you are within driving distance of the GTA honestly these workshops are going to be ON FIREEEE!!


Somatic Inner Child Work

The inner child is often the part of you that’s holding your clients back from embracing their true selves. In this workshop you’ll learn:

The Somatic Journey to Authenticity

Your clients have a childish part subtly sabotaging the life they want. In this workshop you’ll learn:

    • How to connect somatically with the childish ego
    • How to strengthen the healthy ego or adult part of themselves
    • And how to connect to their inner wisdom to live in an authentic way

      Date: Saturday, June 24th, 10 am – 2 pm

      Investment: $60+HST (or $200+HST for all 4)

Processing Emotions Somatically Workshop

Your body already knows how to digest emotions.

In this workshop you’ll learn how to work with your clients somatically to process:

    • Sadness
    • Anger
    • Fear
    • And joy

      Date: Saturday, July 15th, 10 am – 2 pm

      Investment: $60+HST (or $200+HST for all 4)

The Wisdom of Pain Workshop

Sometimes you gotta go to the doctor! And with many types of pain or illness, there is also an emotional component to it.

In this workshop you’ll learn:

– How to help your clients to connect compassionately with their pain
– To listen to the message from the pain
– And to create a more loving relationship to this pain or illness

Date: Saturday, July 29th, 10 am – 2 pm

Investment: $60+HST (or $200+HST for all 4)

More info here!


Author: Bryn Bamber

Career Coach Bryn Bamber helps people like you find a career that’s aligned with your goals. Her Burnout to Brilliance program teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. Start today with your FREE Checklist: Decrease Stress and Get an Hour of Your Day Back! Get it here - Learn more about Bryn & the Burnout to Brilliance program at

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