If you’re a people pleaser, I’ve totally been there. Helping with a volunteer project because a friend asked or spending a long time at home visiting because my family wanted me to.
Sometimes after the holidays, I’d go back to more drained than before because I hadn’t done anything I wanted to do and only what my family and friends asked of me.
If this is you, you might be:
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- Spending money on a dinner somewhere you don’t really like because a friend asked you to
- Feeling scared to charge for your art or service and/or undercharging and discounting
- Wanting to hide and not see anyone, because if you go out you’re scared they’ll ask you for something (and you won’t say no)
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The people pleasing money block is real. If you have it you might:
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- Work really hard but not be saving as much as you want to
- Feel anxious about your finances
- Or struggle to make ends meet
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If this is you, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. It doesn’t mean that you’re bad or stupid or evil. It comes from childhood experiences and figuring out how to cope.
People pleasing is actually a survival strategy when you’re a kid because you don’t have the resources to move out or change schools if you’re having a negative experience. As a child, it’s a GOOD THING that helps you to get through hard times.
Maybe you:
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- Had to be nice all the time and weren’t allowed to have boundaries with family members that you didn’t like
- Had to be the pseudo-therapist for your parents or caregivers in order to receive love and care
- Had to get good grades in order to receive your parents or caregivers attention or approval
- Had to be nice all the time and weren’t allowed to have boundaries with family members that you didn’t like
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This money block can affect anyone but is particularly strong with women who were taught not to be “a bitch,” which is really just a woman with boundaries, or “selfish” which is a woman who puts her needs first and doesn’t do a ton of unpaid labour.
The good news is that there are simple steps you can take to begin to heal this money block.
The first and most important step is awareness. The more you become aware of this block and see how it’s playing out in your life, the more you can begin to heal.
And that’s exactly why I created the Money Blocks Webinar to teach you even more about the People Pleasing Money Block and the steps of how to begin to heal.
It’s free and you can access it on demand. So make sure to sign up for it today and get all the information and support you need to begin healing these blocks.
You’ll learn how to do inner child work around this and get everything you need to begin to create more financial stability and abundance in your life long term.
Learn more here – tinyurl.com/moneyblockswebinar
Take care and talk soon,
Bryn