I know you love the shit out of your clients so I wanna share some amazing somatic tools that’ll help you help them on an even deeper level.
From somatic work I’ve had clients:
– Find love after 15 years of failing
– Land the professor job that felt impossible and actually pays $20K more than she was expecting
– Had her Instagram TAKE OFF and her DMs full of folks asking for her specific coaching
And before I did somatic work, I was anxious 90% of the time. It’d take me over a week to write and send a short email because I’d be editing and re-editing, worried about getting something wrong.
And I had social anxiety to the point that it took me years to sign up for a single dance class.
Somatics changed my life: I’m finally after years of failing in a long term loving relationship, my career is fully aligned and even my friendships have deepened.
I know from personal experience that somatics ARE LIFE CHANGING so I’m opening 4 spots open in the Advanced Somatic Techniques Program.
You ready to deepen your somatic skills and blow your clients minds?
And it’s one on one so catered exactly to what you and your clients need.
You can choose from somatic techniques for:
– High anxiety clients
– Narcissists and Codependence
– Or that destroy the patriarchy
Or you choose combine several of these techniques in your program.
You’ll experience these techniques yourself AND learn how to use them with your clients in a way that’s trauma informed.
Do you have any questions about the program?
Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Wanna add Advanced Somatic Techniques to your already amazing skill set?
What kind of Trauma Informed tools will I learn?
Here’s an example of the trauma informed tools that’ll help you help your amazing clients on an even deeper level.
When you have a client you’re struggling with, the most important question you can ask yourself is: Who does this client remind me of?
Do they remind you of a parent, a sibling, a teacher?
Our brains do this amazing thing of pattern recognition and we even put people into categories. This is a survival shortcut the brain does to save calories (I’m serious, look it up.) But it isn’t always helpful for your work with clients.
In the therapy world it’s called countertransference which basically just means your thoughts, feelings and projections related to a client.
And nothing has gone wrong if you’re doing it. Every single therapist, every single coach, every single healer has countertransference which is why therapists are required to study it.
The first step in helping this client is awareness. For example, knowing this person is reminding you of your mom, so you’re feeling a little defensive at times, is going to shift your connection with the client and you’re going to be able to help them more deeply.
The next step is to get some support around your relationship with your mom or whoever they’re reminding you of. You’ll get support to process what feelings are coming up around that relationship.
The more you can work with whatever’s coming up, the more you can be grounded and connected with the client in front of you and see them in their individuality.
You’re doing AMAZING work in the world, I just know it since you’re still reading!! Keep going .
Have more questions about the program and would prefer to have a chat?
What does something like Somatic Techniques for Codependence look like?
In codependent relationships on an energetic level your energy is enmeshed. And sometimes even though your energy is enmeshed your heart is closed to protect yourself.
And even if you’re 10,000 miles away you can still faintly or sometimes strongly feel what the other person is feeling and particularly what they’re feeling towards you.
In a healthy relationship you can step in and out of the other person’s energy field, so you can empathize with them but you can also step away (either physically or energetically) and feel your own feelings about the situation.
How to break the codependence energy bubble:
1) Move your anger towards the other person
When you and the other person are enmeshed, there’s going to be either:
– Anger that they’re trying to control you.
So PHYSICALLY move the anger towards the other person:
If you’re new to working with anger simply bring your hands into fists and say “I’m angry” and notice if you can feel the anger in your body when you say that.
This will start to break that energy bubble you’re in together.
2) Experiment with Boundaries
There’s a need for boundaries so you can feel your own feelings without being influenced by them.
You can do this by:
– Limiting the time you spend together energetically (for ex. time on the phone)
Finding the right sized boundaries takes time. So you get to experiment.
Ex. Next time I go home to visit my parents I’m only going to spend one night as opposed to 3. Or the next time I’m on the phone with my brother I’m going to limit the phone call to 20 minutes.
You might feel some guilt or fear about setting boundaries because you likely learned that it’s mean or selfish or unsafe to set boundaries.
So it might not feel great initially. But notice once you’ve processed the guilt or the fear if you can feel your own preferences more, having the space.
Do you feel more energized after? Do you feel lonely? Do you feel relieved?
Note: Loneliness isn’t always an indicator you need to spend time with that person, sometimes you need to spend more time in other healthier relationships
“One of the most shocking revelations of my work was that the most compassionate people I’ve interviewed over the years, were also the most boundaried…
Compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They’re compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment.”
The more healthy boundaries you set around the people you love, the more compassionate and open hearted you’ll be able to be in the long run.
In this program, you’ll learn how to use these techniques with your clients in a way that’s trauma informed.
Is your inner wisdom resonating with this program and you’d like to chat more about what it might look like?
What’s your definition of Trauma Informed?
Trauma is something that was too much and happened too fast.
So simply, being trauma informed involves being consistent with your clients.
But not every person needs the same level of consistency, so depending on what kind of client your working with, they’ll need different kinds of support.
For example, when I started working with my Core Energetics practitioner, what I needed from her was multiple sessions where literally I would lie down under a blanket and close my eyes and not say a word. She’d sit with me and allow me to be quiet and not withdraw her love and not yell at me and not expect me to have some “insight” or “breakthrough”.
I remember a session where I told her I didn’t want to make eye contact when we said bye. And she supported that. And it felt totally foreign for me to honour what I wanted inside…
She’s an incredibly stable presence and recently gave me 4 months notice that she’s taking time off in Nov.
I also work with a coach, who pushes me more and challenges me more. And is maybe less “trauma informed” but who’s also helped me hit some money goals that my Core Energetics practitioner wasn’t able to help me with.
To use patriarchal and heternormative symbolism: my Core Energetics practitioner is my mom – nurturing and soft and unconditionally loving no matter what I do. And my coach is my dad – still loving but pushing me to climb a little higher in that tree.
Both are amazing. Neither is wrong or better. But depending on where your clients are and what their current goal is, they might need more of one or the other.
Being trauma informed is a spectrum and in this program you’ll explore what the type of client you work with needs.
Is this the right next step in your professional development?
What’s the structure of the program?
You’ll start by setting your intention for the program, what somatic techniques you’re most interested in and what your goal is for the work with your clients and your business.
The first session will be a personal session where you’ll bring up a personal issue and we’ll work with it somatically.
The most powerful way to learn somatic techniques is to experience them in your nervous system.
And since you attract clients who are similar to you, the somatic intervention you need, is likely the one that’s going to be most important for your clients.
The second session is a client focused session, where you can share about a particular client or group and what you’re trying to help them with and direct teaching of trauma informed somatic techniques.
The third session is another personal experiential session.
And then the final session is focused on your client or group and more teaching again.
This combination of experiences and more didactic teaching lead to a deep cellular understanding of the somatic techniques you want to focus on.
Want a deep cellular understanding of key somatic techniques?
What does somatic techniques for burnout look like?
When your client is burned out, on a somatic level, they’ve lost touch with their body.
They listen to logic and thoughts over their body’s impulses to rest or their gut feeling to say yes or no.
All of their energy is up in their head and there’s little that flows below the neck.
How to heal:
1. Gently reconnect the client with their body by having them notice their body’s reaction:
Ex. When you talk about your boss yelling at you, does your body feel good or bad? Does it feel relaxed or tight? Does it feel hot or cold?
This will slowly get them out of their head and into their body.
They might say things like “This feeling doesn’t make sense.” And that’s typical. Reassure them, it doesn’t have to make sense yet but it will in time.
2. Start having them make SMALL decisions based on their body’s wisdom.
Ex. What do they want to eat for dinner? When they think about:
– salad with chicken does their body feel good or bad?
– a hamburger does their body feel good or bad?
– a chickpea and veggie curry, does their body feel good or bad?
Reconnecting with their body’s wisdom is a muscle that will slowly grow. By having them make small decisions based on their body’s inner knowing, in time they’ll be able to make bigger and bigger decisions.
When a client has healed from burnout, they value the wisdom of the mind, the heart and the gut equally. In Western culture we’re often taught to value the mind and disregard the heart and the gut.
As they heal the client’s energy will flow easily to all parts of the body. They’ll experience less tension in the head, jaw and neck.
And because they listen to the body when it needs rest or cancel an event, they’ll experience less exhaustion overall.
For the first time ever I’m teaching somatics for burnout to coaches, healers and therapists.
How long is the program and how much does it cost?
It’s a month long intensive program and the investment is $1000 CDN (~$800 USD)
Note: there’s also a 6 month program available for those who want to go even deeper and you can use your $1000 credit towards the 6 month program if you choose to extend.
Is your intuition drawing you towards this program?