A friend texted me to ask if we could talk and my mind goes to 100 negative thoughts. “He’s mad about this, he’s going to accuse me of that, I’m going to have to defend myself.” I’m walking down the street. The sun is shining and it’s beautiful and lush out. But I’m not enjoying it at all. I’m catapulted way into the future.
Things are continuing to be uncertain and we’ve now been in lockdown for almost 2 months now. Some days I feel accepting of it and can see the positives. Other days I feel intense emotions, sometimes sadness, sometimes I feel trapped, sometimes angry.
Female-identified artists, healers, and entrepreneurs are badass by nature. You were not told you could make your own money or create your own business, so any woman who is willing to take the risk is the definition of badass.
And I’m also been touched by how supportive these women are to each other, how supportive other women in business have been to me.
I used to sit down at my desk with the goal of “working on my business.” I’d pull out my agenda, figure out what to focus on and start working. After a few hours, I’d stop. The main problem with this strategy was lack of productivity and distractions. I’d waste time on Facebook and sometimes I’d work on one blog post or task for hours and hours and hours. And I was spending too much time on things that didn’t get me closer to my goals and dreams. I needed a change. Now this is not really a glamorous thing to talk about but the best self care strategy I implemented in 2019 was SCHEDULING. I used to think, “I can’t do that. I’m not organized enough. I’m not disciplined enough. It’s not my style. It won’t work for me.” But it’s absolutely changed everything. I trust myself more and I’m less frantic, more calm and more clear in my business. I know what parts of my business are most important in any given week, so I’m not wasting time working on things that don’t move me towards my goals and the impact I want to make. So I want to share my intuitive heart-centred scheduling process with you:
Take a few deep breaths and write down all your values in your business and your life. What is important to you? It could be: – financial stability
– your family
– selfless service
– fun and playfulness
– living in the moment Write down as many of your values as you can think of. Keep going and don’t pick up your pen for a few minutes.
Then take a few more deep breaths and look back at your list. Put your hand on your heart and feel into your top 3 values for this season of your life.What’s the top priority will shift and change but decide what’s most important to you in this moment. Circle them.
Decide what day of your week is going to be your planning day. Some people like to do Sunday. Personally I do it on Monday. Doesn’t matter as long as it works for you, choose your day.
On your planning day write everything on your to do list – business and life
– bills to pay
– blog posts to write
– marketing to do
– cleaning the bathroom
Then based on your top 3 values organize your to do list into 3 categories: High Priority Medium Priority Low Priority If there are items on your list that are not in alignment with your current priorities, take them off the list completely or put them on different list for long term projects.
Starting with the HIGH PRIORITY ITEMS, schedule everything into your calendar. If you don’t know how long something is going to take, guess. You can always move things around later if it takes a bit longer or is a bit quicker. Be heart centred and connect your to do items with your top 3 values. Don’t write 9:00 – 10:00 am “Prospecting,” write 9:00 – 10:00 am reaching out to help current and prospective clients. And make sure to schedule lots of breaks and time off for yourself in addition to all the work. I typically work for 2 – 3 hours straight and then take a one hour break. On my break, I allow myself to do whatever is going to most refresh me so that when I come back to my next task I’m refreshed and ready to keep working towards my values.
SHOW UP FOR YOURSELF! The last step is to fully show up for yourself. Some days you might not feel like getting out of bed to work on the project you scheduled for 9 am. Get out of bed anyways. Last year I realized that I was willing to drag my tired self out of bed and take an Uber if I was running late to meet a friend but sometimes I would sleep through my morning tasks I’d scheduled for myself. Now sleep is super important, so I’m not at all trying to advocate for only getting a little sleep. But I want to treat my work on my business as seriously and actually even more seriously than I do my social engagements. Value your time. Show up for yourself and your values. And the more you do this, the more you’re going to build your confidence in yourself and the more you’re going to build a business that’s both profitable and soul-nourishing.
Yes – there are a lot of steps. But it will only take you one hour on a Sunday night or Monday morning and is going to have you feeling much more fulfilled in the long term. After implementing this, your time off is really going to feel AMAZING because you know the priorities for the week have been taken care of. You’re absolutely going to love this! And then sometimes, when you don’t want to do a specific task, you might hate it…
At that point it’s time to tune in, feel into whether the task is truly aligned with your values, and if it is to go ahead with it. If you have any questions about this process, feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll make sure to get you all your questions answered.
And if you need emotional support and want to connect with other female-identified artists, healers and entrepreneurs please join the free or pay-what-you-can Emotional Support Circles coming up.
Soon after we went into lockdown I had a sore throat, achey muscles, and fatigue. It felt very similar to other times I’ve had the flu but I was nervous. What if I had it? What if I’d given it to someone before lockdown started?
I was trying to understand what was happening in the world, in my country, and to my own body. I wasn’t scared of getting severely ill. I have a strong immune system and am in good health. But I was very nervous that I would give it or had already given it to someone else.
I wanted to get tested but I couldn’t get a hold of Telehealth. When I called it just a busy signal or cut out. I never got to the automated menu. Too many people were calling and the system was crashing.
As a solopreneur, you have to make a lot of decisions and now that we’re in this situation you need to make even more. You have to figure out whether to properly sanitize your whole shopping cart or just the handles or if it’s all overkill… And so it’s easy to get into decision fatigue.
I was spending money that I didn’t have on things that were not that important to me and was telling myself that next month would be better, next month my business would “break through.” This went on for months. I was in school, I’d quit my stable non-profit job and was focusing on growing my business. My numbers – both income and expenses – weren’t good and so I avoided looking at them.