In codependent relationships on an energetic level your energy is enmeshed. And sometimes even though your energy is enmeshed your heart is closed to protect yourself.
In a healthy relationship you can step in and out of the other person’s energy field, so you can empathize with them but you can also step away (either physically or energetically) and feel your own feelings about the situation.
I can, unfortunately, admit I’ve definitely had ableist thoughts like:
“She’s late because she doesn’t respect me.”
“If he was more organized, maybe he’d get ahead.”
“Why can’t they be more productive?”
Which is why I’m super happy to have Shaun Roney, coach for women with ADHD tendencies on the Sacred Goals Podcast to teach you how to best support your clients or students with ADHD tendencies. She shares her personal journey to getting diagnosed, what to look out for if you think you might have ADHD and what ableist thoughts to keep your eye on in your own brain.
Folks socialized as women are taught “don’t be a bitch” which translates to “don’t get angry.” And folks socialized as black women get a double whammy with the “don’t be another angry black woman” message…
This might not seem like a big deal but it can decrease:
Your access to pleasure and relaxation
AND it can cause health and relationship problems!
Being trauma informed, in a nutshell, means you respect the other person’s boundaries. Here’s why: trauma teaches you that healthy boundaries don’t work. Every single two year old says no no no no no! Until they learn, through psychological or physical trauma, that no doesn’t work.
You might’ve learned that receiving always had a catch. You had to give back, even if it was something subtle like praising your mom’s cooking.
As I type this, I feel the heavy icky feeling of obligation in my chest. The good news is healing this will impact your love life, money mindset, ability to enjoy vacation, career fulfillment, all the things.
In this episode of the Sacred Goals Podcast, psychiatrist Dr Kathleen Young and I talk about mental health stigma, Bryn shares why she’s considering medication for the first time in her life and we discuss how stigma is changed throughout history and what you can do.
Imagine a 5 year old that’s really mad but has to keep her anger in because she knows there’ll be some sort of consequence if she stomps or yells. She keeps the anger in by breathing more shallowly, tensing her shoulders and buttocks, gritting her teeth to keep the feelings inside.
Everyone has a wine-o-clock t-shirt but so many people think medication to help with mental health should only be used as a last resort.
In this episode we talk about mental health stigma around diagnosis and medication, Bryn shares why she’s considering medication for the first time in her life and we discuss how to stigma is changed throughout history.