Sometimes you buy a marketing course and never open it.
Or order a dragonfruit smoothie and don’t like it.
Or you think you know your sister’s size so you buy her non-refundable shorts at the Nike store and then they are in fact the wrong size.
Me too!
While we wait, let’s learn about how to do conflict well from what goes wrong in some of the Ultimatum fights.
Okay, Sam and Aussie.
If you were socialized as a woman, you were taught to believe your bad with earning money, negotiation, managing money and sales.
You were told by women’s magazines to scrimp and save and coupon (while research shows men’s magazines teach about negotiation and investing).
Selfishness actually helps to heal trauma.
After trauma occurs, your brain develops a strategy to avoid future trauma.
Get her an ice cream cone.
Close the curtains and let her watch a Pixar movie in bed on a Tuesday afternoon.
Decide at the last minute not to go to the party and order pizza instead.
My brain yells: you’re never going to get out of debt, you’ve signed few clients but you don’t know how to sign more and you’re not fully booked and you’ll never be as good as your friend who made $200K so you better hire the exact right business coach to save yourself from failure.
How many times has a friend said, I just wanna help ppl, I don’t wanna do the selling part? Or I just want to make my art, I don’t wanna sell it?
I used to believe that too…
Continue reading “The Patriarchy Makes You Suck at Selling (and how to fix it!)”
In 2018, I was living off my line of credit. Every month I was losing more and more money but I didn’t want to look at it.
I’d quit my job and thought with more time I’d be able to build up my new coaching business. Every day I sat on my laptop and worked. And I started to have little bits of success selling a $400 coaching package here and there but it wasn’t enough.
I kept thinking, “Next month will be better. Next month I’ll break through.”
The spirit of my business has challenged me to pitch myself to 100 conferences and podcasts in 30 days and I have to say it’s fucking harrowing.
Typing words on a screen is not, in fact, harrowing. But the patriarchal thoughts pummeling me while I try to type are…
Continue reading “I’m a creepy needy selfish fame obsessed weirdo”
I’m struggling with the voice that tells me I’m an egotistical asshole for pitching myself to speak on podcasts and at conferences.
It makes it hard for me to show up and do what I’ve committed to doing to promote my business.
What’s helping me get over is asking myself about my soul’s purpose. Like why the eff am I even running this business in the first place???
