I’m ALL IN on generosity. True generosity is one of the most beautiful things you can do.
But when it comes to over-giving, I’m out!
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How to Set Boundaries with Family Members!
You might be finding you set boundaries with friends, and it’s absolutely no problem. But then you do the exact same thing with a family member and it doesn’t work!!
When this happens, you’ll need to do what I call “Leak-Proofing” your boundaries.
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I was going to write about healthy boundaries today but I was so inspired by the events of this past weekend, I had to write about this. [Stay tuned, I’ll be sharing even more about healthy boundaries next week!]
Where were you when you heard that the election was over? (Seriously hit email me at bryn@brynbamber.com and tell me!! I want to hear your stories and I’ll probably cry all over again hearing what happened for you!)
And keep reading to hear where I was!
Time, Money and Energy
What do time, money, and energy have in common? They are all protected by healthy boundaries.
Here are some examples:
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- PROTECTING MONEY: If you buy a charging cable from Amazon and it doesn’t work, return it.
- PROTECTING TIME: If a friend asks you to meet for lunch Friday and you have a super busy week already, postpone it to another week.
- PROTECTING ENERGY: Take the time to find a movie both you and your partner or friend want to watch. Don’t be willing to watch a scary movie that’s going to keep you up or give you bad dreams.
So if you don’t have enough time, money or energy, it’s probably because there’s some area of your life where you could use healthier boundaries.
Building Boundaries
The holiday season is the Boundaries Olympics. There are events with family and friends and office parties and all sorts of situations where you get to say YES, NO or MAYBE.
And this season is going to be even more intense in some ways because we have the pandemic and everyone has different needs and values around that.
Over-Giving
A lot of my clients have been struggling with over-giving lately, so I wanted to share a little more about what it is and how to begin to heal it.
There’s generosity and then there’s over-giving. With generosity, you’ll feel excited, loving, or passionate.
With over-giving, you might feel good about helping out a friend but you’ll also feel drained, frazzled, or overwhelmed.
Self-Esteem
I used to believe you either had high self esteem or low self esteem. I think we filled out a quiz in high school to see whether our self esteem was “high” or “low.”
And OF COURSE, I wanted to have high self esteem.
So whenever I had negative self talk or critical thoughts, I thought OH NO! I have LOW SELF ESTEEM! This is bad!! I must stop the negative thinking!!
Invisible Trauma
I didn’t know I had invisible trauma until I was 29 and the only reason I realized was because I was in a 4 year mental health training program.
I don’t want you to have to do a big expensive training program to learn about this so I wanted to share signs of invisible trauma, so you can see if this is you. I’ll start with the definition.
My friend didn’t like my boundary…
I recently set a boundary with an acquaintance and he didn’t like it.
But I also survived. I didn’t die. And I got to keep my energy to do all the things I love to do and to help all the people I want to help.
I Hated Selling (and Why You Hate Sales Too)
Selling has been the hardest part of building my business.
I’ve never worked in sales, I didn’t come from a family of entrepreneurs and I never studied business in school.
I didn’t grow up with the “entrepreneurial spirit.” I never ran a lemonade stand, I didn’t sell pop out of my locker or start my first business at age 14.
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