You risk first, so the client feels safe to risk

I was at the Montreal Institute of Core Energetics a few weeks ago for the final in person intensive. And my colleague Jana Sinyor said, “The therapist must risk, so the client feels safe to risk.”

And a lightbulb went off.

I can’t sit in a session with my fucking clipboard taking notes and expect the client to be super vulnerable.

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Inner Critic Boundaries

The boundaries I’ve struggled with the most are with my inner critic boundaries.

I’ve said cruel things to myself that I’d never imagine saying to anyone else.

And I used to think that it was normal. Everyone has an inner critic. No big deal.

But it is a big deal because it has a significant impact on my mental health.

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Anxiety Identity

When I started to heal, I began to realize how freaking anxious I am…

Being anxious and being a trauma survivor became an important part of my identity.

Which was good for me because before that I’d just thought “I’m such a whiny baby and I should be able to do everything myself.”

Then, years later, I realized that making trauma and anxiety a main part of my identity was holding me back from being more relaxed and joyful.

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