I was at the Montreal Institute of Core Energetics a few weeks ago for the final in person intensive. And my colleague Jana Sinyor said, “The therapist must risk, so the client feels safe to risk.”
And a lightbulb went off.
I can’t sit in a session with my fucking clipboard taking notes and expect the client to be super vulnerable.
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I remember a few years ago when a friend of mine made $30K in 12 months and I was SO JEALOUS!!
I thought IF ONLY I CAN MAKE $30K in a year I’ll know I’m a TRUE ENTREPRENEUR and I’ll be confident forever.
Inner child work is what got me into a loving relationship after a decade of failed dating. And it’s what’s gotten my clients outrageous promotions and to be loving with themselves as parents.
It might seem silly but I swear to god it works.
The boundaries I’ve struggled with the most are with my inner critic boundaries.
I’ve said cruel things to myself that I’d never imagine saying to anyone else.
And I used to think that it was normal. Everyone has an inner critic. No big deal.
But it is a big deal because it has a significant impact on my mental health.
In 2022 I had two family members pass away so there was a lot of grief.. 2023 has been for the most part less acute and painful…
But then yesterday an incident happened that brought the grief back to the surface. Grief expert Krista St Germaine calls these grief grenades.
I used to put my needs last. Everyone else’s needs would go before mine, including the creepy guy on the bus who asked for my number and who’s now texting me everyday but I feel guilty about wanting to block him. Blocking him would be greedy.
I have a kill switch because guess what? The mammals that were peaceful even when their offspring were killed went extinct!
“If you hurt me or my loved ones, I will fucking kill you!”
AND “if you cut me off in traffic, I will fucking kill you too!” Continue reading “”
I open the email and feel a weight on my chest. My face gets hot. I’m pissed.
I’ve been working on a project and one collaborator sent a message that I don’t agree with.
I know better than to respond right away and step away from my computer.
When I started to heal, I began to realize how freaking anxious I am…
Being anxious and being a trauma survivor became an important part of my identity.
Which was good for me because before that I’d just thought “I’m such a whiny baby and I should be able to do everything myself.”
Then, years later, I realized that making trauma and anxiety a main part of my identity was holding me back from being more relaxed and joyful.
Somatics welcomes the NEGATIVE SHIT! I actually get excited when a client brings up something they hate ;)!
