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The third time I went to talk therapy was after I broke the law :/…

The first time was when I was 13 and we were moving. I told him I didn’t have a boyfriend and he said, “well that’s good, the move shouldn’t be so difficult then.” I remember feeling misunderstood.

The second time was in university and was pretty decent. I remember him validating my struggles… even though I thought I was too privileged to deserve help at that time

Then the third time was when I was working at a youth custody facility as part of my nonprofit job. I asked one of the youth why she was in custody. This is illegal because youth in custody have special privacy rights in Canada.

The director of the youth custody facility threatened to withdraw from the partnership with my non-profit. My boss was pissed.

And even though in the end, we worked everything out and the project continued… I couldn’t get over the shame.

I was terrified to make another mistake.

I’d edit and re-edit every email just to be sure. So it’d take over a week for me to send a 200 word email.

To the point that my boss suggested that I go to one of the counsellors that was included in our benefits package.

But the only useful thing I remember from her sharing was the serenity prayer:

I think she left out the “God” part… but I can’t quite remember.

My first somatic experience was shortly after this…

And in one session, I made as much progress as I would in 20 talk therapy sessions.

(I can’t remember what it was called. Body-Mapping? It had something to do with muscle testing…)

Maybe it’s because I’m kinaesthetic that it worked so well for me.

But all I know is that it was a life saver and I stopped seeing the serenity prayer woman…

And then the first time I tried Core Energetics, another somatic modality, I remember walking into the room and feeling at home before the workshop even began.

And then had an incredible experience that night, asking for support, getting rejected, processing the rejection and finding someone else to support me. It was powerful.

the studio where I went to that first workshop and now see my Toronto clients

And gave me the courage to get out of a really bad living situation. I stayed at a friend’s that night and never slept in that bad apartment again.

So I did more workshops, signed up for a weekly group, and was feeling so at home in myself, I decided to do the 4 year training program.

Which is why this Black Friday Sale I’m running feels weirdly spiritual to me.

Somatic work completely changed my life and my mental health.

And I’m so proud of myself for offering it, including a private bonus somatic session to you for 50% starting tomorrow and going until Monday!

Set a reminder to buy tomorrow (Friday!) and get your free private somatic session booked!!

And consider investing more money in yourself this Black Friday than you do in anyone else ;).

Especially if you were socialized as a woman and taught to put everyone else’s needs before your own…

Hugs,
Bryn

P.S. All the Black Friday Sale deets:

Free session + 50% OFF Advanced Somatics Techniques Workshop

This will give you the advanced somatic tools you can use to heal:

– money blocks
– relationship challenges
– career struggles.

And if you’re a coach, therapist or healer it’ll add advanced somatic techniques to your skill for work with clients. I’ve had ppl email me about a breakthrough a client experienced after attending this workshop!

Sale Price: $60 CDN (~$42 USD) instead of $120 CDN!

🎁 Plus BONUS 30 minute PRIVATE session with me.

Sale dates: Nov 29th – Dec 2nd, 2024

Learn more – https://brynbamber.com/product/advanced-somatic-techniques-workshop/

Free Session + 50% OFF Feminist Somatics Course

You’ll learn:

– Being Trauma Informed
– Somatic Techniques to Heal Patriarchy
– High Anxiety Clients
– Being Diversity Equity Inclusion Informed (taught by special guest teacher)
– Healing Trauma with Somatics
– Working with Resistance

Sale Price: $225 CDN (~$182 USD) instead of $550 CDN!

🎁 Plus BONUS 55 minute PRIVATE session with me.

Sale dates: Nov 29th – Dec 2nd, 2024

Details – https://brynbamber.com/product/feminist-somatics-course/

🎁 Prepare to treat yourself.

Continue reading “Suffering”

Your kid intentionally throws his yogurt on the floor and you feel the rage building inside you.

Every human being has a kill switch because you’re a mammal. It’s what helped your ancestors survive.

Continue reading “Kill Switch”

I wish my mechanic had sold me harder…

…because my used car ended up dying of rust.

me and my old car

Continue reading “Rust Proofing”

At age 40, Suzy Batiz went bankrupt for the second time. After years of PTSD from being molested and an abusive marriage, she found the work of Byron Katie. She started meditating and listening to Gangaji everyday. And for the first time she felt peace.

She wanted to share so she created a course on what had helped her. She launched it and 2 people bought.

Continue reading “Going backwards…”

Hi!

me and Anna at the Ashram

Continue reading “How to Talk to Spirit Guides”

In my old job I worked with youth in custody in Northern Canada, at a youth custody facility for young women, some who were charged with very serious crimes. And they were fun and sassy and sweet teenage girls…

When I was there at this particular facility, 100% of the were indigenous (even though the area had lots of white ppl that lived there).

They had experienced love from their families but also had experienced abuse in their own homes and then, 100% of them had been taken away from their families and put into the foster care system with other families, many of whom were abusive and this time there was no love. After being placed in foster care, all of them had started abusing drugs and alcohol, usually at age 11 or 12. Then sometime after that they committed a crime.

I was part of a documentary film project with them and hearing their stories was harrowing… and it was eerie how similar each story was… even though we interviewed them one at a time, each girl had basically the same story. It was heartbreaking for me.

And it helped me see the dualism. Even with the girls who were in there for more serious crimes it wasn’t cut and dry that they were “bad ppl”. If these girls had had loving biological families with no abuse, or even had been placed in loving foster families with no abuse, would this have happened? My guess is no…

And yes some ppl live in a healthy family and end up committing crimes but there’s usually something at play. Mental health issues, substance abuse issues etc.

And you could argue that sometimes it’s pure greed or rage… but greed and rage are both part of being mammals, they’re part of our survival strategy of the human race… if humans were not greedy and rageful, our ancestors wouldn’t have survived, they wouldn’t exist.

And I’m not saying I support any of serious crimes. OF COURSE NOT.

But I don’t think ppl are bad ppl, condemned forever as evil, even if they do something that deeply hurts another.

And I am also trying to give myself that grace when I make a mistake and hurt someone’s feelings. I can’t be perfect either.

And I can apologize if it feels necessary but I don’t have to beat myself up forever about it.

And neither do you.