Tossing and turning, back and forth: making big decisions


A couple of years ago I started looking at one bedrooms, bachelors and studios to rent.  I am moving out on my own. As I scrolled through Craigslist and Padmapper looking at prices, pictures, areas of town, my chest felt tight.  I started to panic. Could I really afford to live in this city? Could I really afford to move out on my own?  Maybe I should move somewhere else.  I called my dad and talked through the idea of moving to Thunder Bay. What were the pros, the cons.  I ended the phone call by deciding to sleep on it.

One day after a dance workshop, I biked to High Park to spend sometime in nature on my own.  On the way there, I turned off a side street to look at some of the apartment buildings near by.  I took pictures with my phone of addresses and phone numbers.  Somehow being in the actual space allowed me to move away from a place of panic about moving to one of curiosity and calm.  I examined the different buildings, considered my options.  When I got home I looked them up online.

I went back a couple of days later to see if I could see some of the units.  I found a beautiful studio with a stunning view of the lake.  I fell in the love with the place but tossed and turned about the price tag.  I had come to terms with spending 40% of my take home income on housing, but this place had blown through my budget.

The panic started again when I went to see a similar unit nearby but in a different complex.  Many parts of it were comparable, but the price was lower.  I still loved the tiny and beautiful place I had found but wouldn’t it be the responsible thing to take this other unit.  It wasn’t as nice but was more reasonable.

After tossing and turning, back and forth, talking to family and friends about the decision, I’m going forward with the more expensive place.  I love it and it will be where I spend every day of my year.

I also know that if after a couple of months if the financial burden feels too hard to bear, I can assign my lease to someone else. Or I can move out after the one year lease.  I know that this is an experiment and that even if it is the wrong decision, I will learn from it and I will learn to pivot.

And I’m also incredibly excited about this small and beautiful space. I move in July 1st!

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Author: Bryn Bamber

I work with big hearted people who want to make a positive impact in the world. The only problem is: -Your career isn’t working -You wake up some days and don’t want to get out of bed -You’re stressed about paying the bills Career Coaching in the Forest teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. A life where you wake up to feeling a sense of purpose and easily pay the bills. I teach you how to approach making a career change in a way that is fun, easy and gets results :). I have over a decade of experience in the field of education and during my four years at an educational non-profit I hired enough contract staff to know what employers want and DON’T WANT in the job application process. So why did I start this? When I was 24, I was overwhelmed by my job working with vulnerable youth and fell apart. I moved to a yoga centre for 2 years to put myself back together. There I figured out what I was messing up at work and became a yoga and meditation teacher. Career Coaching in the Forest will help you to see the mistakes you’re making without having to move to a yoga centre! And use meditative practices to help you see where you need to go. I know exactly what it feels when something’s not right in your career and now I love helping others to make changes so their lives can become full of meaning and purpose again and so that you can make lots money too ;). Start today: get my Free Resource: Land Your Dream Job Checklist here - And above all else, please go for your dreams. Your life has meaning. You are here for reason. Find out what it is and when you do put all you that you got towards it! Talk soon! Bryn To learn more go to

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