Loneliness might mean you’re meant for something more

Abby Oliver, after she figured out where her loneliness was leading her

When Abby was in her late 20s, her life looked great from the outside. She was the VP of Public Relations and Marketing for a company. She had a 2 bedroom house in Bel Air and many friends. But on the inside she felt empty, lonely and she didn’t know how to fit in.

Everything changed for Abby when she came across a book about Indigo Children. For the first time in her life, everything clicked. She felt like she was finally understood and started to learn everything she could about Indigos.

She learned that Indigo Children are:

·   very intuitive, intelligent and sensitive

·   have a big sense of mission or purpose

·   feel a large sense of responsibility

When Indigo Children haven’t figured out their purpose they:

·   Have a deep seated sense of loneliness

·   Feel like they don’t fit in

·   Have the sense of “it’s not working”

The more she read, the more she realized: this is me!! Maybe there’s not something wrong with me, maybe I’m just an Indigo Child and need to live in the world my way.

She started to make changes. She quit her big fancy job and started doing some administrative work for a salon. She moved from a two bedroom house in Bel Air to a studio apartment by the beach and started to spend time building a relationship with her intuition.

She’d always been very intuitive as a child but had learned that it was “wrong” in some way so had shut it all down. In school, she was often good an intuiting the answers to math question and had been accused of cheating when she couldn’t explain how she knew the answer.

Or she’d know that something was off with her friends but when she brought it up she’d be told that everything was fine and there was something wrong with her. So long ago, she’d stop trusting her intuition.

But after reading this book, she started building it back up. She started with small wins, like turning off the sound on her phone and trying to use her intuition to see when a text message.

Slowly she rebuilt a new life that’s much better suited to her. Now she still lives in her studio apartment by the ocean and she works with other Indigo Children to help them figure out their purpose. She’s also a free diver, a mermaid, an entrepreneur and a writer.


On New Years Day of this year we hopped online for a Courage Compass interview about her journey. You can watch the whole it here.

Here are the top 3 things I learned from talking to Abby Oliver:

1.     Loneliness might be a sign you’re meant for something more

If you feel lonely, like you don’t fit and it’s not working this might be an indicator that you’re an Indigo Child and you’re meant to be apart of a greater purpose.

The good news is that Abby can help you with that. Check out her blog at indigochildren.com or sign up here (scroll down the page a little bit) to be the first to here about her new group and program that’s designed specifically to help Indigo Children get more grounded, feel better and figure out their purpose.

2.     You might have to go against the grain to create the life that you want

Abby had to quit her fancy job and move into a small apartment in order to build the life that she has now. Sometimes you have to leave what may have become familiar and comfortable and sometimes your peers or family might think what you’re doing is crazy but it’s absolutely necessary to build the life that’s really suited to who you are.

3.     You can start to build your relationship with your intuition in baby steps

I love that Abby started by trying to intuit when people were calling her. You too can start to build a relationship with your intuition by playing the little games that test it.

Breathe. Notice your body. Notice what you’re drawn to and then take action. And then, most importantly, take notes. Did it work out? Were you right?

4.     You can create financial stability in non-traditional ways

Abby now uses income projects to sustain herself. Some of her income comes from writing, some from business consulting, some from products for the other Indigos that follow her. She schedules her projects so she knows she’ll have her expenses for the month covered and is working to create products that are inline with who she is an Indigo.

I absolutely loved starting 2018 with this chat. Thank you so much Abby such a fun and insightful conversation!!

If you feel drained or trapped in your current career, I have a great free resource for you. This checklist lays out the 4 simple steps you need to follow to start saying no to the things that drain you and get your TIME and ENERGY back.


Pick up your free resource here.

Talk soon,


Bryn Bamber
Career & Burnout Coach

Author: Bryn Bamber

I work with big hearted people who want to make a positive impact in the world. The only problem is: -Your career isn’t working -You wake up some days and don’t want to get out of bed -You’re stressed about paying the bills Career Coaching in the Forest teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. A life where you wake up to feeling a sense of purpose and easily pay the bills. I teach you how to approach making a career change in a way that is fun, easy and gets results :). I have over a decade of experience in the field of education and during my four years at an educational non-profit I hired enough contract staff to know what employers want and DON’T WANT in the job application process. So why did I start this? When I was 24, I was overwhelmed by my job working with vulnerable youth and fell apart. I moved to a yoga centre for 2 years to put myself back together. There I figured out what I was messing up at work and became a yoga and meditation teacher. Career Coaching in the Forest will help you to see the mistakes you’re making without having to move to a yoga centre! And use meditative practices to help you see where you need to go. I know exactly what it feels when something’s not right in your career and now I love helping others to make changes so their lives can become full of meaning and purpose again and so that you can make lots money too ;). Start today: get my Free Resource: Land Your Dream Job Checklist here - tinyurl.com/dreamjobchecklist And above all else, please go for your dreams. Your life has meaning. You are here for reason. Find out what it is and when you do put all you that you got towards it! Talk soon! Bryn To learn more go to www.couragecompass.org

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