Making Space for Uncertainty


My boyfriend of 4.5 months broke up with me.  And so it was a process of untangling our lives and letting go.

After a couple of weeks of not talking to him and crying a lot, the crying has stopped and I slipped back into talking, texting with him.

A lot.

And I’m not at all against staying friends after breaking up, but there’s something about what were doing that’s like we’re still dating just without the sex.  Wanting to know how many goals he scored at soccer last night, wanting to know how his Friday is going, wanting to know.

And I’m realizing I need to make space in my life.  Resist the urge to send him every funny video I watch, every article that may “help him”, every thought that passes through my mind.  There’s a difference between staying friends and staying tangled.

And so I resist – I don’t send him “35 things you should do for your career by the time your turn 35” or text him to ask when are we finally going to go to see Straight Outta Compton.  I resist.

And I make space in my mind and in my life.

And it’s scary to make space because I’m uncertain what will fill it.

But what I do know,
is that if I don’t make space,
then there won’t be room
for something else.

If you can relate to this, I have a special gift just for you.


  • feel like at the end of the day you have nothing left to give
  • feel more sensitive than usual to the little things that come up
  • feel like you’ve taken on too much and aren’t certain if it’s all really aligned with your purpose

This checklist will show you the steps to feel lighter, a sense of accomplishment and get an hour of your day back by saying no to what you don’t need and making space for something better.

You in?


Take care of yourself,


Bryn Bamber
Career & Burnout Coach
The Courage Compass


Author: Bryn Bamber

I work with big hearted people who want to make a positive impact in the world. The only problem is: -Your career isn’t working -You wake up some days and don’t want to get out of bed -You’re stressed about paying the bills Career Coaching in the Forest teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. A life where you wake up to feeling a sense of purpose and easily pay the bills. I teach you how to approach making a career change in a way that is fun, easy and gets results :). I have over a decade of experience in the field of education and during my four years at an educational non-profit I hired enough contract staff to know what employers want and DON’T WANT in the job application process. So why did I start this? When I was 24, I was overwhelmed by my job working with vulnerable youth and fell apart. I moved to a yoga centre for 2 years to put myself back together. There I figured out what I was messing up at work and became a yoga and meditation teacher. Career Coaching in the Forest will help you to see the mistakes you’re making without having to move to a yoga centre! And use meditative practices to help you see where you need to go. I know exactly what it feels when something’s not right in your career and now I love helping others to make changes so their lives can become full of meaning and purpose again and so that you can make lots money too ;). Start today: get my Free Resource: Land Your Dream Job Checklist here - And above all else, please go for your dreams. Your life has meaning. You are here for reason. Find out what it is and when you do put all you that you got towards it! Talk soon! Bryn To learn more go to

6 thoughts on “Making Space for Uncertainty”

  1. Oouff… This resonates really strongly with me. I’ve been peering over the edge of that cliff for many weeks on a couple of big fronts — one old and deep and painful but familiar, the other newer and pleasurable but not conducive to what my soul knows is the next phase of my journey… And I’ve found myself alternately backing up to give myself a running start, and convincing myself that I needn’t take the leap after all.

    With the way your words hit me, I’m not sure I’ll be able to deny the truth much longer… Though what it will take for me to gather the courage is another question.

    Familiar knowns are so comfortable, even when we know them to be limiting… What does it take for the unconscious to come to know what the conscious mind can deduce clearly? Experience, it seems to me, which can only be gained having taken the step…

    And then there is faith.

  2. I like how you have put them into words! I’ve written few poems about love and break ups. I hope you get to read them and tell me what you think. English is not my language but I aim to be better at writing in english 🙂

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