My boyfriend of 4.5 months broke up with me. And so it was a process of untangling our lives and letting go.
After a couple of weeks of not talking to him and crying a lot, the crying has stopped and I slipped back into talking, texting with him.
And I’m not at all against staying friends after breaking up, but there’s something about what were doing that’s like we’re still dating just without the sex. Wanting to know how many goals he scored at soccer last night, wanting to know how his Friday is going, wanting to know.
And I’m realizing I need to make space in my life. Resist the urge to send him every funny video I watch, every article that may “help him”, every thought that passes through my mind. There’s a difference between staying friends and staying tangled.
And so I resist – I don’t send him “35 things you should do for your career by the time your turn 35” or text him to ask when are we finally going to go to see Straight Outta Compton. I resist.
And I make space in my mind and in my life.
And it’s scary to make space because I’m uncertain what will fill it.
But what I do know,
is that if I don’t make space,
then there won’t be room
for something else.
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Career & Burnout Coach
The Courage Compass