How to keep going when you’re scared

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Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. Do something that scares you. Live a little. Start before you’re ready. You’ll never be ready.

I was delighted to find this note in the drawer of the table I was working at today.

I recently had someone ask me a terrifying question. He asked, if you could do anything what would you do?

And the part that was scary wasn’t that it was the first time anyone had ever asked me that.

It was that he was serious.

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I have been working since January 1st with Dan Blank, the founder of WeGrowMedia. I signed up for WeGrowMedia’s program that kick starts the process of audience research, branding and seed marketing for the book I am writing.

When he asked me what I really wanted to do, he was asking, “What kind of business can you build that would start to build the audience for your book? What kind of business do you want to start tomorrow?”

So I went through a process. I wrote down every memory of feeling truly alive and every memory of feeling truly awful or disgusted or like I wanted to die. I ended up with over 200 cards and spent one morning in a café spread them out over tables, sorting them, categorizing them.

In the pile of cards that made me feel alive, there were many many cards about being led through or facilitating a group through a well-designed workshop or group process. It didn’t really matter what the workshop was on – it could be a canoe trip or a stats class – but when everyone was learning – I loved it.

And the better job the facilitator did, whether it was me or someone else, the more that we all learned and the more alive that I felt.

So I went back to Dan and said okay – I’ve kind of figured it out. I love facilitating and being a part of people’s learning process.

His response was – every time you’ve done this, you’ve been working for someone else. What would that look like if you were to do this for yourself?

What would the experience be? What would interactions look like? How would it be connected to the book?

Ideas start to fly through my head but as soon as I started, another wave of thoughts took over: I don’t have the credentials; this group will probably think I was copying their work; this other group would think I’m completely self centered; there’s no way I can do this.

So I told Dan that I couldn’t do it.

Dan – but it’s really what you want to do?

Me – yeah.

Dan – Just start building it. You don’t have to launch it yet.

Just start building.

And so I did. And for the past two months I have been moving back and forth between total exhilaration of generating and working on my ideas and the complete terror that if I launch I will fail, I will lose money and everyone I know will disown me.

The Solution

I am now using what I’ve learned from writing a blog for the past couple of years:

  1. Tell yourself you won’t ever publish or launch your productI write better when I tell myself, I’m not going to publish this, I don’t have to publish this.
  2. Polish, polish, polish. The once the article is written or the product created. I completely change my tune and tell myself, we’re publishing this – time to make it as beautiful as possible.

So if you could do anything what would you do?

I created the Burnout to Brilliance Facebook Group, as a place where you can share your biggest dreams, your successes and your failures.

We’re small and beautiful right now and I’m excited to have our community grow. If you want a private space to get support, please join us and feel free to share with others who need support – https://www.facebook.com/ groups/709703142546627/ and don’t worry, it’s 100% free.

 

Take good care of yourself!!

Bryn
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Bryn Bamber
Career Burnout Coach
The Courage Compass
bryn@couragecompass.org

Author: Bryn Bamber

I work with big hearted people who want to make a positive impact in the world. The only problem is: -Your career isn’t working -You wake up some days and don’t want to get out of bed -You’re stressed about paying the bills Career Coaching in the Forest teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. A life where you wake up to feeling a sense of purpose and easily pay the bills. I teach you how to approach making a career change in a way that is fun, easy and gets results :). I have over a decade of experience in the field of education and during my four years at an educational non-profit I hired enough contract staff to know what employers want and DON’T WANT in the job application process. So why did I start this? When I was 24, I was overwhelmed by my job working with vulnerable youth and fell apart. I moved to a yoga centre for 2 years to put myself back together. There I figured out what I was messing up at work and became a yoga and meditation teacher. Career Coaching in the Forest will help you to see the mistakes you’re making without having to move to a yoga centre! And use meditative practices to help you see where you need to go. I know exactly what it feels when something’s not right in your career and now I love helping others to make changes so their lives can become full of meaning and purpose again and so that you can make lots money too ;). Start today: get my Free Resource: Land Your Dream Job Checklist here - tinyurl.com/dreamjobchecklist And above all else, please go for your dreams. Your life has meaning. You are here for reason. Find out what it is and when you do put all you that you got towards it! Talk soon! Bryn To learn more go to www.couragecompass.org

3 thoughts on “How to keep going when you’re scared”

  1. Good on you! I would actually love to facilitate too. I slipped into a facilitator role and absolutely loved it! I love this note too! “start before you’re ready” – ah so true.

      1. No worries, my pleasure! As a facilitator, I worked with jobseekers supporting them to empower themselves. Having read your work, it seems we’ve done similar things! I write and I love photography, both of which have only ever been my vocation. I’m currently on a sabbatical to see whether I can make it more. Looking forward to following your work and your courage notes 🙂

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