Focusing on kindness


Sometimes I cut people off.  And I’m not proud of it.

As I rush to get off the subway I then notice the man with a cane that I’ve just cut in front of…

The last time I crashed a car, I was rushing too. On my way to yoga, ironically… But I was late and didn’t want to miss the class. The road was icy. I knew the road was icy, but thought somehow I was a super human driver.

I fishtailed until I slid into the curb and finally slowed down enough to stop. There were no other cars around.

I was lucky.

A couple of months ago when I was walking to a dance class I saw a car run into a man pushing a stroller. The kid was knocked out onto the road. I held my breath.

It was busy intersection, 20 people called 911 and the paramedics were there in no time.

From what I could see the kid was fine.

I bet that driver was rushing too.


You see, I consider myself a calm, confident and kind human. But when I rush, I become a little bit of an asshole.

I put my safety and the safety of others at risk. Or I cut someone off to get off the subway first. Or I brush people off when they ask for my help.

“Can’t you see I’m rushing??”

The basic rules of kindness and consideration go out the window.

So how do we stop?  How do we stop cutting people off?

It’s actually pretty simple.

Design your life so you don’t have to rush.

Get up early enough so you aren’t rushing on your way to work.  Leave early for meetings or appointments. Don’t take on more work then you can reasonably handle.

Of course, there are factors that are out of our control and some days we do have to rush.  But most days we don’t.

I don’t want to cut corners to meet a deadline. I don’t want to cut people off.  And one of main core values in life is this – don’t be an asshole.


Do you want to:

  • Stop rushing?
  • Stop feeling so drained?
  • Have more time for what you love?

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Bryn Bamber
Career & Burnout Coach


Author: Bryn Bamber

Career Coach Bryn Bamber helps people like you find a career that’s aligned with your goals. Her Burnout to Brilliance program teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. Start today with your FREE Checklist: Decrease Stress and Get an Hour of Your Day Back! Get it here - Learn more about Bryn & the Burnout to Brilliance program at

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