How is Shame Sabotaging Your Career

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Samantha has one too many drinks the night before and ends up sleeping in and ends up being late for an important meeting. When she realizes her face gets hot and her breath gets shallow. “Shit!” she thinks, “How could I have been so stupid? What have I done??”

This is shame, according to Brene Brown, research professor and public speaker on the topic.

The Bad News…

Shame is when you tell yourself, “I am a mistake.” And the bad news is Brene says that, “Shame is highly, highly correlated with addiction, depression, violence, aggression, bullying, suicide, eating disorders.”

So in Samantha’s case after beating herself up about missing the meeting she probably goes home and has a couple more drinks to take the edge off and it isn’t long before she misses another important meeting…

The Good News

The good news is that by making a small change, Samantha can change her reaction from shame to guilt, which is a much healthier emotion.

While shame is when you say, “I am a mistake,” guilt is when you say, “I made a mistake.”

And according to Brene guilt is inversely correlated with addiction, depression, violence, aggression, bullying, suicide, eating disorders. 

And the problem is if you have shame, it’s negatively affecting your career but it’s also a simple refraining of your mistakes to get you to a better place.

And this is part of why I created Burnout to Brilliance: Career Coaching in the Forest, is to teach you the simple steps that will allow your career to blossom. To take you from a place where you’re stuck and broke to a place where you feel energized and respected at work and easily pay the bills.

And Best for Last, The Extra Good News!

I have a special gift just for you.

DO YOU:

  • feel like at the end of the day you have nothing left to give
  • feel more sensitive than usual to the little things that come up
  • feel like you’ve taken on too much and aren’t certain if it’s all really aligned with your purpose

This checklist will show you the steps to feel lighter, a sense of accomplishment and get an hour of your day back.

GIVE ME MY FREE GIFT!

Take care of yourself,

Bryn

Bryn Bamber
Career & Burnout Coach
The Courage Compass
bryn@couragecompass.org

Author: Bryn Bamber

I work with big hearted people who want to make a positive impact in the world. The only problem is: -Your career isn’t working -You wake up some days and don’t want to get out of bed -You’re stressed about paying the bills Career Coaching in the Forest teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. A life where you wake up to feeling a sense of purpose and easily pay the bills. I teach you how to approach making a career change in a way that is fun, easy and gets results :). I have over a decade of experience in the field of education and during my four years at an educational non-profit I hired enough contract staff to know what employers want and DON’T WANT in the job application process. So why did I start this? When I was 24, I was overwhelmed by my job working with vulnerable youth and fell apart. I moved to a yoga centre for 2 years to put myself back together. There I figured out what I was messing up at work and became a yoga and meditation teacher. Career Coaching in the Forest will help you to see the mistakes you’re making without having to move to a yoga centre! And use meditative practices to help you see where you need to go. I know exactly what it feels when something’s not right in your career and now I love helping others to make changes so their lives can become full of meaning and purpose again and so that you can make lots money too ;). Start today: get my Free Resource: Land Your Dream Job Checklist here - tinyurl.com/dreamjobchecklist And above all else, please go for your dreams. Your life has meaning. You are here for reason. Find out what it is and when you do put all you that you got towards it! Talk soon! Bryn To learn more go to www.couragecompass.org

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