Your Back Pain is a Gift

Maybe you hate your back pain. Maybe you get mad when you’re sick.

I know I do…

I can get super annoyed or even depressed when my body is not doing what I want it to do.

And so when someone says something like “your back pain is a gift”, a part of me wants to give that person the finger.

And yet, another part of me has learned incredible life-changing lessons from listening to my pain and it’s messages.

So if you’re experiencing back pain or a cold or some other kind of injury – of course – get support from a medical professional if you need it. If you have COVID symptoms, please get tested.

And it can also be helpful to tune into that pain and see what it’s messages are. To listen to what your body is trying to tell you.

Write your name and then ask your question like, “What are you here to tell me?” to the pain. Then write “back pain” and tune into the physical pain in your body as best you can. Wait for an answer.

Here’s an example from one of my past conversations:

Bryn: What are you here to tell me? What do I need to learn?

Back pain:  I want you to slow down, relax more and enjoy the roses.

Bryn: Really? This fucking message again? The trust and relax bullshit?

Back pain: Lol. Yep. Sounds like you’re really receptive today.

Bryn: You mean you’re really hurting me this much just to ask me to slow down?

Back pain: Exactly. You understand this intellectually and you tell your clients to do this but you don’t always practice what you preach. Once you start practicing, we won’t need to be riding you so hard.

Bryn: This is bullshit.

Back pain: It is what it is.

Bryn: What about now? Should I just quit doing the work I’m suppose to do today and “relax”?

Back pain: That could work. Or you could do your work from a full and relaxed place. Both would help.

Bryn: Okay.


As you can see – I was not very receptive to what my back was trying to tell me but eventually surrendered and was able to listen and receive.

If you struggle with chronic back pain or other types of pain, this is something I definitely recommend trying. 

Your body has great wisdom and can help you come up with creative solutions to whatever challenges you’re facing.

And if you’re resistant like me, I see you! I’m not always able to slow down without a fight.

But the more I learn to listen, the more my life expands and relaxes. And yours can too.

And if you need some extra support with this, next week the Emotional Support Circle’s topic is Learning from Chronic Pain. You’ll be led through an exercise where you’ll start to learn and listen to the messages of your pain and be witnessed by others with similar struggles.

The circle is next Monday from 1:30 – 3:00 pm EST. Free or pay-what-you-can. This circle is open to women (both cis and trans) and non-binary people.

Register here.

Take good care!


Author: Bryn Bamber

Career Coach Bryn Bamber helps people like you find a career that’s aligned with your goals. Her Burnout to Brilliance program teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. Start today with your FREE Checklist: Decrease Stress and Get an Hour of Your Day Back! Get it here - Learn more about Bryn & the Burnout to Brilliance program at

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