Perfectionism

I was only going to send this to my goal group members, but then I realized you all need to hear this message. Perfectionism is what blocks you from achieving your sacred goals, whether you’re in the group or not!

The goal group started Monday and each participant received a workbook where they have a daily worksheet to fill out. 

So, to everyone in the group, if you missed a day, nothing has gone wrong here. And it’s even okay if you missed all four days.

To those of you who aren’t in the group, if you’ve made some small or medium or enormous mistake on the way to your goal, nothing has gone wrong here either.

Your brain might want to tell you:

      • You’re an idiot
      • You ruined everything
      • You’re going to be kicked out of the group
      • You’ll never achieve your sacred goal
      • You might as well quit, because clearly this isn’t going to work and even though it works for everyone else but it won’t work you because something is clearly very wrong with you.

But that part of your brain is wrong. That part of your brain is scared that you have to do everything perfectly in order to get what you want and to a degree that might have been true in your childhood.

If what worked to receive love and attention from your parents or caregivers was sporadic, you might have learned that you had to be perfect to get the love and attention you needed. And so that part of you, that young child part, still thinks you have to be perfect.

But I have good news for you. To achieve your sacred goals you have to be IMPERFECT.

You have to be willing to try and fail. You have to be willing to sign up for the goal group and then miss a day or a couple of days and get back on the horse.

If you’re trying to grow your business, you have to be willing to post on social media and hear crickets in return.

If you’re trying to overcome your inner critic, you have to set the intention to be kind to yourself and then not make it wrong if you criticize yourself 5 minutes later.

IMPERFECTION is the way through. The only way to be perfect is to not even try. Then you won’t get it wrong but you won’t ever get it right either.

So if you’ve missed a day, GOOD!! You’re doing it right.

And if you haven’t missed a day, GOOD, you’re also doing it right.

And to all of you who aren’t in the group: if you made a mistake on the way to your goal, GOOD JOB, you’re doing it right too!!

The more you try, the more mistakes you make. And the more mistakes you make, the faster you’ll achieve your sacred goal because you’ll learn and grow from each challenge.

When a child is learning to walk, they fall a lot. And we don’t look at the child and say, “Hmmm… this one seems to be falling a lot, I don’t know if they’ll ever be able to walk.”

Falling and pushing themselves back up is the way the child builds the muscles they need to eventually walk.

And falling and pushing yourself back up is the way you’ll build the mental strength you need to achieve your sacred goal.

So if you’re falling or failing or mistaking GOOD. You’re on the right track, keep going.

And this is the exact work I do with my one on one clients, so if you want a guide to support you to keep moving towards your sacred goal, hit reply and we can set up a time to chat about whether working together is going to support you.

Keep going. You got this. Mistakes are GOOD. 

Talk soon,
Bryn

Author: Bryn Bamber

Career Coach Bryn Bamber helps people like you find a career that’s aligned with your goals. Her Burnout to Brilliance program teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. Start today with your FREE Checklist: Decrease Stress and Get an Hour of Your Day Back! Get it here - tinyurl.com/getanhourback. Learn more about Bryn & the Burnout to Brilliance program at www.brynbamber.com.

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