The Kitchen

When I went to my grandparents as a child, my nana would cook a huge meal for the family. All 32 of us would pile into her tiny kitchen and fill our white plates with the brown curling borders with cheese pie, peas, mashed potatoes and iceberg lettuce salad with Kraft dressings.

We’d sit at the kitchen table to eat and then have our tea and cookies “in comfort” in the living room. 

After the meal, my nana would serve tea taking orders on milk and sugar.

And then we’d wash up. It was usually me and a few of my aunts in the kitchen with my nana. Nana took pride in doing the dishes and told us we couldn’t help, but we helped anyways.

I liked being in the kitchen with my aunts, they’d tell me stories and I felt like I got to be in their secret society. And I was always praised for being such a good granddaughter helping my nana wash up. 

I liked helping. But somewhere along the way, I learned that I was meant to be in the background, taking care of the behind the scenes work and that sitting and relaxing wasn’t for me.

I needed to work hard and be a caretaker to get the praise that I so cherished.

I never felt like I could sit in the living room when there was work to do. It felt lazy and selfish. 

And as an adult when things happen for me easily, I get confused. An ideal client reaches out and asks to work together or I receive a beautiful gift that I love but it feels hard to accept.

My inner child says, “Really, it can be this easy? Are you sure it’s not a trick or a fluke that’ll never happen again?”

The women in my family taught me how to work hard, and for that, I’ll be forever grateful. I think it’s one of my greatest qualities. 

But they didn’t teach me how to relax and receive. They’re all so generous to others but have a hard time giving to themselves.

So now I’m teaching myself how to sit in the living room. To drink tea and accept when things are easy.

And if this resonates with you, you can learn to receive too.

Building your receiving muscle is like building any other muscle in your body. You start small and then build up to receiving bigger gifts.

For example, the next time someone gives you a compliment, don’t justify or minimize, simply say: Thank You. Then breathe and see if you can take in even 10% of the compliment into your heart.

Then when a friend offers to help with an errand or a project, say YES and try to receive the help.

Step by step you can build your receiving muscle bigger and bigger and get more and more of what you want in life.

And if you want some support with this, reach out. I can 100% help you because I’ve been through it. We’ll hop on a free call and see what’s been getting in the way of you receiving and explore whether working together is a good fit.

And to all of you who are NOT good at receiving, I want to challenge you to reach out for this FREE call. This could be a step to build your receiving muscle.

It’s totally free, we’ll explore what’s best for you and you DON’T HAVE TO SIGN UP TO WORK WITH ME JUST BECAUSE THE INITIAL CALL WAS FREE.

I say that in caps because I know you who have a hard time receiving. What if you could do the free call and just RECEIVE.

So if you feel nervous to book this call, you should definitely book it :). Hit reply and we’ll find a time that works best for you.

Okay, go out and build your receiving muscle. Step by step you’ll bring more love, more care, and even more money into your life.

Take the best care,


Author: Bryn Bamber

Career Coach Bryn Bamber helps people like you find a career that’s aligned with your goals. Her Burnout to Brilliance program teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. Start today with your FREE Checklist: Decrease Stress and Get an Hour of Your Day Back! Get it here - Learn more about Bryn & the Burnout to Brilliance program at

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