Embrace Your Inner Bitch

Folks socialized as women are taught “don’t be a bitch” which translates to “don’t get angry.” And folks socialized as black women get a double whammy with the “don’t be another angry black woman” message…

This might not seem like a big deal but it can decrease:

      • Your income
      • Your access to pleasure and relaxation
      • AND it can cause health and relationship problems!

The good news is that it is reversible if you embrace your inner bitch. Here’s how:

      1. Notice When you Feel Bitchy

        Whenever you notice it: welcome this anger or frustration or bitchyness into your body. Where do you feel it physically?

        Repeat to yourself, “This is what anger feels like. It’s safe to be angry.”

      2. Move that Bitch

        Stomp your feet or squeeze your hands into fists. This will help you process and digest the anger.

      3. Ask “What’s the Truth in this Bitchyness?”

        You were likely taught that your bitchyness was “irrational” and you’re too “emotional” but usually there’s a truth to it.

        Anger is the energy that tells us when a boundary was crossed. Ask yourself, what boundary was crossed today? And how can I lovingly protect myself?

I can tell you, some of the biggest healing around my anger was sharing it in a group and having people actually feel closer to me when I expressed it physically. And that’s why I’ve created the Rage On Workshop that’s going to take place on Zoom, and is open to all folks who were socialized as women.

I don’t have a date yet… so join my newsletter to make sure you get the info.



PS Message or email me if you have any questions!!


Author: Bryn Bamber

Career Coach Bryn Bamber helps people like you find a career that’s aligned with your goals. Her Burnout to Brilliance program teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. Start today with your FREE Checklist: Decrease Stress and Get an Hour of Your Day Back! Get it here - tinyurl.com/getanhourback. Learn more about Bryn & the Burnout to Brilliance program at www.brynbamber.com.

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