Folks socialized as women are taught “don’t be a bitch” which translates to “don’t get angry.” And folks socialized as black women get a double whammy with the “don’t be another angry black woman” message…
This might not seem like a big deal but it can decrease:
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- Your income
- Your access to pleasure and relaxation
- AND it can cause health and relationship problems!
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The good news is that it is reversible if you embrace your inner bitch. Here’s how:
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- Notice When you Feel Bitchy
Whenever you notice it: welcome this anger or frustration or bitchyness into your body. Where do you feel it physically?
Repeat to yourself, “This is what anger feels like. It’s safe to be angry.” - Move that Bitch
Stomp your feet or squeeze your hands into fists. This will help you process and digest the anger. - Ask “What’s the Truth in this Bitchyness?”
You were likely taught that your bitchyness was “irrational” and you’re too “emotional” but usually there’s a truth to it.
Anger is the energy that tells us when a boundary was crossed. Ask yourself, what boundary was crossed today? And how can I lovingly protect myself?
- Notice When you Feel Bitchy
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I can tell you, some of the biggest healing around my anger was sharing it in a group and having people actually feel closer to me when I expressed it physically. And that’s why I’ve created the Rage On Workshop that’s going to take place on Zoom, and is open to all folks who were socialized as women.
I don’t have a date yet… so join my newsletter to make sure you get the info.
Love,
Bryn
PS Message or email me if you have any questions!!
