Selfishness Cures Trauma

After trauma occurs, your brain develops a strategy to avoid future trauma.

The strategy could be:

      • People pleasing
      • Hyper awareness of what other people need (and less focus on what you need)
      • Or walking on eggshells

These strategies actually helped you to stay safe when you were a child or when you were living in an abusive situation.

But now that you don’t live with these people, these strategies are outdated and leave you drained.

This path to healing can be fun albeit sometimes unfamiliar or even scary:

Do one thing that’s selfish every day.

This interrupts old survival strategy patterns and starts to resource you. And as you become more resourced, you begin to heal on a deeper and deeper levels.

What’s one small selfish thing you can do today?

The BONUS is that if you were socialized as a woman, this helps destroy patriarchal neural pathways too!

And if you work with clients, this is a fun and genius way to help them heal trauma without having to tell their traumatic story.

Selfishness heals your trauma, heals the patriarchy and heals your clients.


Comment with one selfish thing you’re going to do today!


PS If you want to work with a witch that uses fun and pleasurable techniques to help you heal trauma, I’m your witch!

Your sessions would include:

      • Dancing
      • Laughing
      • And yelling

And through this my clients get life-changing results like:

      • Starting a super popular IG account for her biz
      • Breaking free from mom-guilt
      • Finding her dream social-justice oriented partner

If you want to work together, book a free consult here.

PSS If you want to incorporate more fun selfish and somatic techniques with your clients, the Somatic Deep Dive Program was created exactly for you. 

In this program you learn deeply transformative somatic techniques in a trauma informed way that you can start using with your clients immediately.

To learn more about this program, click here.


Author: Bryn Bamber

Career Coach Bryn Bamber helps people like you find a career that’s aligned with your goals. Her Burnout to Brilliance program teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. Start today with your FREE Checklist: Decrease Stress and Get an Hour of Your Day Back! Get it here - Learn more about Bryn & the Burnout to Brilliance program at

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