A week ago, in the Uber on the way to the airport I asked the driver if he thought I’d make my flight, to which he responded, “There are lots of flights to Toronto.”
Not a good sign 🤦🏻♀️…
But I said, “I think I’m going to make it.”
And I maintained that point of view, that is until the Air Transat employee called his supervisor and she said no to letting me even try to get through security.
I missed my flight. And then the shame and anxiety took over.
But here’s the thing, freaking out in the Uber wouldn’t have made me get there faster.
Even though I was ultimately wrong, believing that I was going to make it kept me happy.
Believing that things are going to turn out in your favour rarely hurts and makes life more enjoyable.
Now let me be clear I fucking hate toxic positivity with a vengeance.
I’m not talking about “looking on the bright side” when a cherished relationship ends or you move across the country and leave all your closest friends or when you’re processing a childhood trauma.
But I used to be the person who when I had a voicemail automatically assumed the worst, that someone was mad at me about something.
And now when I get a voicemail I consciously think it’s probably good news or a pesky spammer.
When a client emails I think “it’s probably good news!”
And this positivity makes me feel better.
And yes sometimes I’m wrong and then I handle it.
Just like when I missed my flight, I handled it. I reached out for both emotional and physical help. I was met mostly with generosity and I got home safe and sound albeit a day later than expected.
Our brains are wired to look for the negative because the humans that survived during cave ppl times were always on the look out for poisonous berries and lions and bears.
But in the modern world we don’t need that nearly as much and the good news is that our brains are plastic until the day we die so you can start practicing imagining the best outcome in non-life threatening circumstances that usually stress you out.
So the next time you open your inbox, tell yourself, there’s probably good news coming and then see what you got.
Love,
Bryn
PS this imagining the best also applies to the way you see yourself. Thinking “I’m good at marketing” is a thought that will make you feel better even if not every marketing approach you try works.
Which is why I’m so excited for the Brag Marathon that’s available to current one on one clients and Advanced Somatics Certification students! Bragging is going to help strengthen confidence neural pathways and weaken the self doubt ones, making working towards your goal funnn and easy.
If you’re a current student or client make sure you lmk you’re in and I’ll add you to the fb messenger group!!
PSS If you want to join the brag marathon, you need to be a client or student to get free access so if you’ve been wanting to work with me one on one, book a free consult asap and we’ll try to get you registered before it starts August 8th!
Book a free consultation here :)!
PSSS If you wanna learn Feminist Somatic tools combined with this positive mindset work, the Feminist Somatics Certification was made for you. Applications open in September and you can get started today with the Free Workshops: Somatics to Heal Patriarchy here! <3
