I’ve been thinking about when world leaders make decisions based on revenge… how that makes it really hard for international relationships to ever be repaired…
And how revenge in friendships and marriages weakens the relationship.
And at the same time I feel vengeful often… when someone hurts someone I care about or hurts me, I want to hurt them back.
And I’ve definitely acted on it.
My tools of revenge have been the silent treatment, a harsh tone of voice, a look that felt like daggers. I’d say something passive aggressive like, “Well, you wouldn’t understand anyways.” Then I’d talk about you behind your back.
After a big break up I remember having a fantasy of dating someone super hot and then running into my ex in the hopes of hurting my ex emotionally.
But my intention now is to not act from a place of revenge. Even these micro-revenge moments like a cruel look.
And I mess up sometimes.
And I apologize sometimes. I’m not perfect but I’m definitely getting better.
And if you have vengeful feelings, that’s totally natural.
Our species wouldn’t have survived if you’d felt calm and peaceful after someone tried to kill your brother. Or tried to kill you.
And at the same time repeated micro-revenge moments like passive aggressiveness are toxic to relationships.
If you want to explore your feelings of revenge and learn how to process them through your body so they come out less in your relationships, come to the $10 Somatic Inner Child Workshop in Toronto, Sat Oct 30th, 1 – 3 pm.
You’ll learn how:
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Accept yourself even though you have vengeful thoughts because we all freaking do!
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Process feelings including anger and revenge through the body
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Heal your inner child parts so your harsh tone of voice comes out less often with your kids or even with your mom…
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And if you were socialized as a woman, you’ll learn how the patriarchy told you, that scorned women were not “good” ppl
Hugs,
Bryn
PS if you’re not in Toronto and you want support with your vengeful feelings and other things shit you feel ashamed of, I can help.
For example, if you suppress your feelings of vengeance, you might be suppressing all anger and not be setting boundaries at work. So you work overtime whenever your boss needs extra help and you do stuff thats not in your job description and its leading to you feeling burnt out.
This is the exact kind of thing I work with my one-on-one clients on.
To learn more about how I can help you, book a free consult here <3 !!
