I work mostly with women who had to grow up too fast… Because I’m a woman who had to grow up too fast.
And sometimes I pressure my business to grow too fast too…
I’m used to the bar being set super high and then hustling and grinding to make it happen.
Instead of setting the bar at a reasonable height and celebrating the small victories along the way.
I was being peer coached by a friend this week and I was asking, “Am I really being myself, am I really the same person in my writing as I am in my real life? Am I too harsh, too brash? Does my warmth shine through? Am I doing it wrong? If I don’t do it right, I’ll never attract the right clients!
And she said, “What if for the next few months, you let yourself do your social media wrong? You let yourself make mistakes. You didn’t DEMAND clients from your social posts. And your goal was teaching your nervous system that it’s safe to do social media imperfectly. As a kid you learned you had to be perfect to be safe, so teach yourself that it’s safe now to be imperfect.”
And I felt such gentle loving energy from this suggestion.
Putting my young sensitive soul first. Letting her rest and play and create and make mistakes.
And then letting my wise adult part of me deal with any consequences. So I’m doing it.
And if you were a kid that grew up too fast, I wanna offer this to you too.
What if for the next few months, you allowed yourself to do your goal wrong? You let yourself make mistakes. You didn’t DEMAND results from your baby steps towards your goal. And you taught yourself it’s safe to do this imperfectly.
As a kid you learned you had to be perfect to be safe, so teach yourself that it’s safe now to be imperfect.
Big hugs, big love,
Bryn
PS Shout out to my amazing friend who peer coached me on this Emily Feairs, Executive Leadership Coach for Women. She’s fucking brilliant. Hire her – https://www.emilyfeairs.com/
PSS TORONTO PEEPS – come hang and heal with us this Saturday at the Processing Trauma Workshop! We’ve already got a few amazing folks registered as well as somatic genius with 25 years+ experience and the biggest heart, Pablo Cortes co facilitating!!
PSSS The Sacred Goal Process is about really letting yourself make mistakes and heal the childhood experiences that have made working on your goal feel so heavy.
As you heal perfectionism and these childhood experiences, working towards and achieving your goal becomes more easeful and even fun!
This process is available FOR FREE to my 6 month one on one clients. If you’d like the one on one support plus this free 28 day Sacred Goal group program, sign up to work with me before Jan 15th :).
