I’m ALL IN on generosity. True generosity is one of the most beautiful things you can do.
But when it comes to over-giving, I’m out!
Over-giving is when you’re tired or exhausted and you don’t really want to help the person, but you feel like you should.
Oprah calls it, “The disease to please.” When you don’t want someone to be mad at you or you want your community to think you’re spiritual and loving and giving so you give even when you don’t have much left.
GIVING and OVER GIVING have completely different energies and I bet you’ve experienced it. Here are the differences.
Can you feel the difference between these two energies? Can you think of times in your life when you’ve given from the heart and other times when you’ve been over-giving?
If you’ve ever had an aunt who invites you over for dinner but then is clearly very stressed and rushing and anxious the whole time, you’ll know it’s not that relaxing experience as the dinner guest. So when you’re rushing and over-giving, the person you’re giving to can’t fully enjoy it either.
Now, I definitely spent years over-giving and sometimes still find myself there, so there’s no shame if you’ve done it too.
But it’s not good for you. It’s not good for the other person. And the energy isn’t good for the planet, because it’s not a clean joyful generous energy.
Spiritual people are giving and compassionate but that doesn’t mean:
- Burning yourself out
- Giving money to causes that don’t feel aligned
- Volunteering for something that doesn’t feel heart centred
- Helping at the cost of your own health
Spiritual people are compassionate and they also have healthy boundaries so they protect their energy. That allows them to give MORE to the causes that feel deeply aligned.
And this is exactly why I’m running the FREE Boundaries Training Camp in December specifically for spiritual folks! We’ll talk about some of the challenges of setting boundaries as a spiritual person and what strategies are the MOST effective to do this.
If you attended my first Boundaries Training Camp, you’re going to love this one EVEN MORE. I’ll be reviewing some of the material from the first camp because repetition helps build healthier boundaries and I’ll be applying it specifically to what spiritual folks struggle with.
Take the best possible care,