How to Set Boundaries with Family Members!

You might be finding you set boundaries with friends, and it’s absolutely no problem. But then you do the exact same thing with a family member and it doesn’t work!! 

When this happens, you’ll need to do what I call “Leak-Proofing” your boundaries.

Here’s an example:

REGULAR BOUNDARY

You say, “Mom, I don’t want you to comment about how much food I eat.” But then your mom comments anyways, just like she always does and you don’t know what to do.

Try a LEAK PROOF BOUNDARY:

You say, “If you comment on how much food I’m eating this week, I’m not going to come to Sunday dinner next week.”

And then of course, if your mom comments, you have to follow through on your consequence.

YOU CAN’T CONTROL YOUR FAMILY (which I totally wish sometimes I could control my family!). But you can 100% control how you react to them.

Now, if you feel like this is absolutely impossible and you couldn’t possibly set a consequence and follow-through that’s totally okay. I’ve 100% been there too which is exactly why I created a free 20-minute training on What Blocks Healthy Boundaries. You’ll need to join the Healthy Boundaries FB group and then you can access the free training here.

But if your READY for to learn even more about Leak Proof Boundaries, here are some more examples:

Now, unfortunately, I have to let you know that your family members probably won’t like this. They might get upset or react. 

And that’s totally okay. They can be upset and you can have your boundaries. 

You have the right to protect your energy. You have the right to protect your time. You have the right to protect your money and use your resources for the things that are important to you.

And, in time, your family will get used to your new boundaries and it won’t be as big of a deal.

Now take a deep breath, and notice where in your life where you have a leaky boundary that isn’t being respected. 

And decide what you want to do about it :). YOU get to choose.

Now if this something you seriously want to work on because you really want to have the energy to build wealth for yourself, to build a thriving career and a thriving romantic life, the fastest way there is to work with an expert.

Which is exactly why, I’m inviting you to schedule a FREE one-hour consultation with me where we’ll look at where you are now, what dream life you want to build and how you’re going to get there.

My clients are building healthy boundaries which are allowing them to focus even more on their financial and career goals.

And so hit reply to schedule a free consult to see if this will support you!

AND go set a leak-proof boundary! Let me know how it goes! Let me know if the person gets mad. 

It’s totally uncomfortable when someone gets made but it’s also totally safe and 100% a part of the process. So email me and we’ll talk it out if that happens.

Take the best possible care of yourself,

Bryn

Author: Bryn Bamber

Career Coach Bryn Bamber helps people like you find a career that’s aligned with your goals. Her Burnout to Brilliance program teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. Start today with your FREE Checklist: Decrease Stress and Get an Hour of Your Day Back! Get it here - tinyurl.com/getanhourback. Learn more about Bryn & the Burnout to Brilliance program at www.brynbamber.com.

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