I wake up anxious and my first reaction is… “this again? Are you kidding me?”
But your anxiety is… the part of you that’s scared and that needs your love.
But I’m learning to say instead, “I love you. I care about you. I’m going to take care of you.”
There’s a young part of me that gets scared a lot and had some good reasons in childhood to be scared.
And I have to say it feels better 🤪.
You gotta love yourself but wtf does that mean?!
It means loving the part of you that feels anxious.
Loving the part of you that feels ashamed.
Loving yourself on the days when you hurt someone’s feelings or lost money or genuinely fucked up.
Loving yourself doesn’t mean you never apologize but it means you don’t have to annihilate yourself before you apologize.
It means loving the part of you that‘s depressed and the part of you that’s enraged.
I get caught doing this too but for the love of god please…
STOP SAYING CRUEL THINGS TO YOURSELF THAT YOU’D NEVER SAY TO A FRIEND.
And stop being cruel to yourself on the days where you’re already sad, already scared or already ashamed.
And you don’t have to do it perfectly, you just have to aim at getting 1% better at it…
Hugs,
Bryn
PS you know how some folks socialized as women struggle to say no and end up doing everything for everyone else.
I’m the person they call when they’re ready to say no in a graceful way, so they don’t feel like shit at 9 pm every night.
For example, I helped a client say no to the constant favours from friends and her partner when she was working from home and actually get her eco-blog off the ground.
If you or someone you know needs this kind of support, I have a few spots open for one-on-one clients. Email bryn@brynbamber.com for details ♥️.
