I thought I was never going to find love. That I was unlovable. And with every break up I felt even more discouraged.

Kahlil Gibran writes,

“Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred
fire, that you may become sacred bread for
God’s sacred feast.”

That’s what had to happen to me to finally attract a healthy relationship.

During my 4-year somatic training program in Core Energetics, my childhood trauma resurfaced. I got reacquainted with my anger. I screamed more than I’ve ever screamed. I cried more than I’ve ever cried and I finally started seeing a somatic practitioner regularly.

I was terrified of saying no and making others mad. But I said no and pissed ppl off.

And no joke one month after I graduated, I met my amazing partner who I’ve been dating for 3+ years.

At the time, I hated that it was taking so long.

But now I’m glad it took so long so I could heal and was ready for a silly, loyal, kind partner.

If I could go back, I’d tell myself.. don’t worry so much… ENJOY THE RIDE!

And today it feels like certain business goals are taking FOREVER…

But this time, I’m willing to be THRESHED and GROUND and KNEADED to serve my community the way I’m meant to.

I’m enjoying the journey, as opposed to constantly telling myself I suck and that I’m irreparably broken…

And you can too.

Maybe you’ve been working on a goal for over a decade…

But what if you committed to stop beating yourself up and letting it take the time it takes?

Love you, I really mean it.


PS TORONTO – if you wanna come to a group that’s committed to ambitious goals and loving yourself fiercely on the way – join the Healing Cocoon. Learn more here <3 !!

PSS And if you’re years into your goal and ready to scream more, cry more and do the hard work that’s going to get you to your goal, I have a few spots open in my one-on-one program. Email or DM me to learn more about it!

Or check out the scholarship here 🙂 !!

Author: Bryn Bamber

Career Coach Bryn Bamber helps people like you find a career that’s aligned with your goals. Her Burnout to Brilliance program teaches you how to make small shifts that will free up tons of energy for the things you really love. Start today with your FREE Checklist: Decrease Stress and Get an Hour of Your Day Back! Get it here - Learn more about Bryn & the Burnout to Brilliance program at

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